Financial infidelity is viewed as a “premeditated crime” because hiding or lying about money takes active and deliberate planning. And many people view it as worse than cheating, physically, on a partner. In the case of abuse, this is a completely justifiable “crime.”
They feel ashamed of their spending habits and debts. They have narcissistic tendencies. They like the sense of control deception can give. They may have had a difficult childhood or learning challenges and have developed a habit of lying and hiding things for fear of being 'discovered'.
What does the Bible say about financial infidelity? As husband and wife become “one flesh” this means a union of their entire being—physically, emotionally, spiritually, and, yes, even financially. In 1 Corinthians 7:4 God commands, “The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband.
The consequences of hiding money from your spouse or partner
Others hide money because they're embarrassed over the way they handle it. But when partners have financial secrets, it's a sign of deeper relationship concerns. It's never just about the money; money can represent feelings of shame, fear, mistrust, and more.
Whatever the reason, hiding assets, income and debt is not only unethical; it's also illegal and subject to severe penalties IF discovered. But even so, the burden of proof is often on the spouse with less financial resources (typically the woman) to prove any such unscrupulous behavior.
Here are eight ways to protect your assets during the difficult experience of going through a divorce:
Several grounds for fault divorce include adultery, cruelty, abandonment, mental illness, and criminal conviction. There are, however, additional grounds that are acceptable in some states such as drug abuse, impotency, and religious reasons.
Reasons Spouses Lie
There are many reasons your spouse may be dishonest with you. ... People often lie not necessarily to deceive, but to protect their own ego. They're ashamed of what they're trying to cover up, they are afraid of the consequences, and they don't want to have to live with your disappointment in them.
He May Want To Break Up
He is probably lying to you because he doesn't see a future with you as his partner and he hasn't got the energy to tell you the truth that may upset you or cause you pain. His hiding the truth can also be a sign that he has lost respect for you and that is why he is thinking about breaking up.
Financial infidelity occurs when couples with combined finances lie to each other about money. For example, one partner may hide significant debts in a separate account while the other partner is unaware.
Reasons for Financial Infidelity. People keep financial secrets from their partners for a variety of reasons. Most often, they're simply trying to avoid getting into a fight over money. Sometimes, however, concealing money matters can be a symptom of a deeper problem in the relationship, such as fear or lack of trust.
Financial abuse involves controlling a victim's ability to acquire, use, and maintain financial resources. Those who are victimized financially may be prevented from working. They also may have their own money restricted or stolen by the abuser. And rarely do they have complete access to money and other resources.
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